Practicing Safety in Online and Sexual Relationships

As technology continues to shape the way we connect with others, online communication has become an important part of everyday life for many adults, including those on the autism spectrum. The internet offers countless opportunities for self-expression, friendship, and even romantic connection. However, just as with any social setting, online interactions require awareness, boundaries, and safety practices to ensure that individuals are protected from potential harm.

The Organization for Autism Research (2023) emphasizes the importance of teaching individuals self-advocates and adults with developmental disabilities how to navigate online spaces safely. While many people online are kind and genuine, others may not have good intentions. Some individuals use the internet to deceive, manipulate, or take advantage of others. Therefore, developing social and digital safety skills is essential to promoting independence while reducing vulnerability.

Keeping Personal Information Private

One of the first steps in online safety is protecting personal information. Adults should be reminded not to share identifying details such as their full name, home address, place of work, or school name. Sharing such information can put individuals at risk of identity theft, stalking, or harassment. Teaching adults to use screen names or limited personal details when interacting online helps minimize those risks. For example, if someone shares both their first name and place of employment, it may allow others to find their email address or social media accounts. This could lead to unwanted contact or even targeted scams. Families and caregivers can help by encouraging adults to review privacy settings and think critically before posting or sharing information.

Building Trust and Setting Boundaries

Forming relationships online can be positive and rewarding when approached with caution. Many adults find friendships or romantic partners through shared interests or online communities. However, it is important to remember that not everyone online is who they claim to be. Some people may create false profiles to gain trust or request money and personal information. Before sharing private details or meeting someone in person, adults should talk with a trusted person such as a family member, friend, or staff support to  discuss the situation. Having an open conversation allows for additional perspectives and helps assess whether the interaction seems safe. Additionally, video calls can be a good way to confirm a person’s identity before meeting face-to-face. In romantic relationships, it is crucial to understand consent and legality. Adults should ensure that both parties are above the legal age of sexual consent and that any form of sexual communication or behavior is mutually agreed upon. If an individual discovers that someone is underage, contact should stop immediately to prevent legal consequences.

Respecting Boundaries and Consent

Healthy relationships are grounded in respect, trust, and communication. It is important to teach that saying “no” is always acceptable whether the situation involves a conversation, a photo, or a sexual request. No one should ever feel pressured to do something that makes them uncomfortable. Likewise, respecting others’ boundaries is just as essential.

Some individuals may not want to talk about sex or intimacy due to past experiences or personal comfort levels, and that decision should be honored. Adults should also learn that consent is ongoing it  must be freely given, can be withdrawn at any time, and applies to both online and in-person interactions.

Supporting Safe and Healthy Relationships

Families and professionals can work together to promote digital and sexual safety education for adults. These conversations may feel uncomfortable at first, but they are crucial for developing self-advocacy and autonomy. Encouraging open communication allows adults to make informed choices about who they interact with and how they share personal information.

Providing education on online safety, consent, and relationship skills empowers individuals to form meaningful and respectful connections while maintaining their well-being. As the Organization for Autism Research (2023) notes, following safety guidelines and discussing boundaries can significantly reduce risks while promoting positive social engagement online.

By teaching adults to recognize red flags, protect their personal information, and navigate romantic or sexual situations with confidence and respect, families and caregivers help create a foundation for safe, fulfilling relationships both online and offline.

Reference

Organization for Autism Research. (2023, December 20). Practicing safety in online relationships. Research Autism.

Veronica Mireles, Behavior Consultant, Miren Behavior